There will be a lot of change in relationship between wife and husband after the birth of baby. There will be lot of tension and strain in relationship. Partners can solve these kinds of problem by communicating with each other. After a child is born, every partner will have their own apprehensions and expectations.
Once the baby is born, Sexual relationship might be affected to greater extent. If at all this affects the relationship, it might take a toll on your daily living style. Being a new mother, one should fulfil all the demands of the baby by breastfeeding and cope with the body changes after the childbirth which ultimately affects sex life. Often partner feels that there exists a need to spend quality time with their child instead of wasting their time in love making. And we think everyone makes demand only on us and have no rest for our self. Making time in order to improve our ‘sexual relationship’ will help the partners. These are the few things you need to remember:
Sex life can start at any time. There is no right time for it.
Intercourse need not be necessary. Just cuddling together, spending time and lying together improves the relationship and brings about comfortness in your relationship.
If at all sex is painful after healing, then it is better to consult the doctor.
Again if the partners have problems with the sexual relationship, then it is better to go for counselling.
Most of them feel that it is a great deal to spend time taking care of new baby. Most new fathers and mothers feel exhausted or disgusted because they do not get sufficient sleep which may extend for months or a year. At this time, man feels that his ‘partner’ is ignoring him. He thinks that all her time is spent on the baby which makes him jealous.
Most of the women will not have keen interest on sex for weeks after the childbirth because of exhaustion. Usually, women express that the sex is too painful at this particular time and very difficult to cope up with. They need lot of rest and enough sleep when they think of sex at this time. It is natural that they suffer from lot of pain when having sex after the childbirth. When both the partners want to have an intercourse after childbirth, they should begin slowly and gently. Intercourse can be tried when baby is sleeping, so there will be some calm and peace.
Worry and Hormonal changes leads to drying of vagina for the starting 3 months after child birth. When we undergo such problems, we can use the lubricants. Kegel’s exercises helps in tightening the muscles of pelvic–floor which helps to regain the muscle tone and to increase the responsiveness of the sex. Most of the women do not like having sex after the childbirth because of the discomforts like: stress, blood loss, vagina dryness, irritation and many more.
There are some psychological factors which are more challenging where most of the women fear that their mates think that their bodies are not much attractive. Even some husbands don’t like seeing stretch marks on their wives body.